Random Updates

1. I cooked fish for the first time today. I'm not much of a cook and I've been scared to buy fresh fish from the counter. I struggle so much with doing things I haven't done before. Even things as simple as buying fresh fish or even going to a different grocery store. I went to Sprouts today for the first time - love that store! I think my new haircut has given me some courage. Well, that and all the stuff I said in my previous post. The fish was very yummy by the way.

2. My dad is going to be fine. He had a fall which we all blamed on his drinking, but it seems it may be more the virus/low blood sugar thing that caused it. The doctor seems to think he is suffering from "post concussion syndrome" which I had never heard of! There is a syndrome for everything! We don't know that he actually had a concussion, but the doctor is not concerned too much by his Cat Scans. He is going to have another in a few weeks, just to be sure. I just called down there and he sounded like my normal dad again. Thanks so much for all your prayers.

3. I confronted my dad about his drinking while we were at the doctor. I didn't mean to pick on him, but the timing just seemed right. I got a lot off my chest - told him I was very mad at him for not being there with mom during my surgery and that I'd like him to be around for Elyssa and that he can't quit drinking all by himself. I was proud of myself. I don't have any hopes that he's going to actually do something. He says that he knows, but knowing and doing are very different. I probably should pray about it more. When I'm angry with people, I tend to not pray for them at all. I'll have to work on that.

4. I love my new haircut!

5. My ex needs to think more. He did not want Elyssa to cut her hair. My opinion is that it's her hair and if she wants it shorter then she should be allowed to do it. He walked in and just gave her a goofy look - we all knew he was kidding, but I wanted him to lavish praise on her. When he took her bag outside (and she was inside), I kindly said, "Little girls need to hear from their fathers how beautiful they are!" (At least I hope it was kindly said!) He said he thought her hair was great. I said, "Then TELL HER!" I wanted to add STUPID but refrained. He did then start telling her how beautiful she looked. Sigh. Men!

6. I've lost a lot of weight. Look at these pictures! Can you see it in my face? I can. The cubs picture is from 2006.


7. I am very tempted to put my blog address on my facebook. I've kept it very private and have only let a few friends and some random strangers (who have become friends) read it. I want to be more transparent, but don't know if that's a good thing. I tend to write with lots of detail. Some people only allude to the details of their lives, but I put in every stinkin' one! Does everyone need to know what I'm thinking? Would I edit my thoughts more if I knew more people who knew me were reading? I'm just not sure about what to do.

8. I love my new haircut! (I know I already said it once. It just bears repeating!)

9. I am almost fully recovered from my appendectomy. But right now my belly is saying, "you've been sitting at the computer too long! It's time to get up!" So I guess that's enough updates!

10. OK - one more. It's got to be a round 10! I want to write more! I miss it!

11. I forgot! My brother got to come to my grandmother's funeral. Doesn't he look great!? He

gets out on September 4th. We're all very excited!

Hidden in Christ

Isn't it amazing how you can feel so far from God so quickly even though you KNOW He hasn't gone anywhere? You know what else is amazing? How quickly you can re-connect with Him. He's right there. Search for Him!

I picked up the Bible study that I'm doing. It's been quite awhile since I've looked at it. It's called "Seeing Yourself Through Christ's Eyes" by June Hunt and it's awesome. Today's was about the fact that we are hidden in Christ. Psalm 32:7 says "You are my hiding place; You will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance."

Because He hides His truth in you, you are protected from wrong thoughts and wrong choices. The adversary of your life has not power to trap you. . . as long as you stay hidden in the shelter of God's wings where you are safe from emotional destruction, hidden from emotional ruin. ~June Hunt

I forget to keep myself hidden in Christ. It takes work. I'm not saying you have to earn your way to be safe with Christ. That's not it at all. By God's sweet grace, we get to be close to Him because of what Jesus did for us on the cross. But it does take some effort on your part to stay close to Christ. He's not going to do it all. It reminds me of a story I heard a long time ago. A man and his wife were sitting in his truck. He was driving and she was sitting in the passenger seat. They drove past a young couple who were sitting right next to each other in their truck - she sitting in the middle while he drove with one arm around her back. The wife turned to her husband and said, "Why don't we ever sit like that any more? We used to do it all the time." The husband replied with, "I'm still in the same place I've always been. It's you who moved away."

Isn't that so much the picture of our relationship with God? It's true for me. He is always in the same place. It's me who moves away.

The verse I have at the top of my blog is from Proverbs 2. "and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find knowledge in God." We have to look and search. We can't be passive.

I know I've written about that before. How quickly I forget. How repeatedly I forget. Urgh. It's frustrating. Because when I'm close to God, everything seems to go more smoothly. I'm happier. I'm peaceful. Do you ever try to blame your distance on other things? I sure do. "I haven't been seeing my counselor as much lately. Home group has been taking a break for the summer. I haven't been to church in weeks due to the funeral and surgery." While those activities are very important in helping to stay connected to Him, it can't be the only things. The way to stay connected is by opening up His truth and working toward knowing Him better.

That's really all it took for me today. I started my tiny little Bible Study that I've put off for weeks. It's tiny! I spent maybe 15 minutes reading and thinking and writing and praying. And today has been a wonderful day. Peaceful. Good.

So if you feel like hounding me with some questions as to how much time I've spent with God, I wouldn't mind it a bit. I don't want to use you as yet another excuse - "no one asked me if I was doing anything!" - but I would love the accountability.

Go. Search for Him. He's closer than you think!

I Miss You

Abba Father -

I miss You. How can that be? You are right here all the time. It's me who turns the other way. I know my last few weeks have been full of trials, but why does that make me drift? I feel so lonely without Your constant presence, but the weird thing is that You're still here. It's me who is not. Is that why it is so strained between Elyssa and I? She's turning into a young woman before my eyes and I don't want to let go of my little baby. I want her to be too much like me and she's not me. She's not me at all. How do I let her be herself? Have I taught her the right things? Is there more that I should do? Is the divorce still hurting her in some way? She always cries when she comes home from her dad's but she won't really talk about it. What do I do?

Heal our hearts Lord. Heal us and make us whole.

Update

It's been a busy week. My 94 year old grandmother passed away on the 13th. We had her funeral on the 17th. It went really well. I started having abdomen pain that night. I knew it was serious somehow, but didn't want to go to the hospital down in Lake Jackson, Texas. So we drove home (7 hours) on the 18th and went straight to urgent care. They sent me straight to the hospital, which put me straight into surgery. I had to have my appendix out.

I was upset because I was supposed to leave for family camp with my church on the 20th. I actually got some tears when they told me I was going into surgery - not from the horrible pain I was in, but because I was going to miss family camp. When I was alone in radiology for a moment, I looked up and said, "God - I'm not sure why you're doing this, but I trust in You and Your plan and if You don't want me at family camp, then I'm not going." I got sent home on Saturday morning. They sure don't keep you in the hospital anymore for very long! I have a picture of my appendix, but I won't put it in here for you. I'm thinking the doctor gave it to me because Elyssa made me ask if we could just keep the appendix. I was glad he said no to that idea.

Monday morning my mom has to call 911 about my dad. I could go into the long details about his alcoholism, but I'll spare you. He went into the hospital on Monday afternoon. They are still doing tests on him, so we're not sure what's really going on. There were some blood pressure and blood sugar issues. He's been borderline diabetic for years, but won't take care of himself. I think there are some liver issues coming up now. I know he went a few days without drinking and then made up for it on the Friday I was in surgery. When I find out more, I'll let you know.

Please keep us in your prayers. We're all pretty messed up over here right now.

Mini Movie

I was playing with my movie maker and just thought this was too cute. Enjoy!

Books and the Duck Pond

Elyssa and I had a great day yesterday. We went to the library. I'd never taken her to the public library before - what's wrong with me? Oh, that's right. I was stuck at Barnes & Noble the past few years. With gas prices the way they are, we'll be going to the library more often. We had a great time! She loved it. We sat in there for a few hours just reading.

Then we went to feed the ducks. Our church put out a booklet thing for the summer with activities to do as a family with corresponding scripture. So we fed the ducks and then read Matthew 6:25-34 which tells us not to be anxious because look at how God takes care of the birds. It was awesome - great fun and awesome discussion about the things we worry about. Elyssa said it was the best day ever!

I found another book by the author of Eli. It's called The Wager. It's a modern day Job story. God and Satan make a bet about this movie star who is also a Christian. Satan does all this horrible stuff to the man. It's cool to read his struggle and see his rewards - a good reminder of the world's crap and God's wonderfulness. (Is that a word?)

Funny how I write about not being anxious as I sit here being anxious. I'm not really sure what it is exactly that I'm anxious about. I'm just feeling blah. Blah. I don't like myself right now but I'm not sure where that's coming from. I need to process through it, but all I want to do is go put a movie in so I don't have to think. Elyssa just went to her dad's too - maybe that's part of it?

Late Night Movies

Elyssa and I occasionally go to the movies late at night. We've done this three times now this summer. I'm not sure what the thrill is of the late night movie, but we love it. I decided pictures were needed.

Tonight we went to see Wall-E. Great movie! Go see my pictures on Facebook.

(I took the link off - I decided I didn't want random people to go there.)

Read This Book

What if Jesus came today? Who would love and follow Him? Who would kill Him?

At first the idea of this book made me uncomfortable. I'm not sure why - I was just unsure about what its purpose was. In his introduction, Bill Myers states that his purpose is to just make people think.

Thinking is good.

God at the Beach

Part 1
Elyssa and I are standing in the ocean looking out to the horizon. It's all blues and grays. There are some white puffy clouds in the sky and you can see for miles! I put my arm around her and say, "Look at how big that ocean is."

"Yeah, it's big Mommy."

"Look how small we are compared to that ocean."

"We're tiny!"

"Think about how big our God is who was able to create all of this!"

"Wow."

Silence.



Part 2
We're walking along the water, just looking at shells. There are a lot of dead crabs and we're wondering why there are so many. We see lots of little shells and some that look like snails - really long, skinny snails. There are millions of sand dollars. They are everywhere. But they are all broken pieces. I've never found a whole sand dollar before. I love the sand dollar - I love the legend of the sand dollar. I say a little prayer, "God - I'd love to find a whole sand dollar sometime."

We walk far down the beach and then we start back. We've picked up a few things - a couple of pretty shells, a few large broken sand dollars. Then I look down. Right there at my feet is a perfectly whole sand dollar. It's about the size of a quarter. Amazing.

"Elyssa! Look!"

"Wow, Mommy! It's not broken!"

"Elyssa, did you know this is God telling us He loves us?"

"How?"

"Whenever God puts something in our path that we love, He is putting it there on purpose just for us. I prayed awhile ago that we'd find a sand dollar, and look how He put one here for us! It's like God is saying, "I love you Erin and Elyssa. Look at what I made for you. Know that I love you."

"Wow."

Silence.

Search for Treasure

First a few "behind the scenes" before getting to my point:

Long ago, my home group leader asked our group to write how God sees us. I couldn't do it. This was months ago. But I couldn't look at myself the way I supposed that God looked at me. I knew the proper Christian answers, but didn't feel them - didn't hold them in my heart. Debbie gave me a devotional called Seeing Yourself Through God's Eyes. Of course I never did it. I flipped through it once, saw that it looked really good and then probably went and picked up a Star Wars novel. (OK - I don't know that for sure, but it's probably true.)

Last Sunday, Pastor Beau (who leads the Denton campus) gave a sermon. The whole way through it all, I just couldn't get his point. I understood what he was saying - I just didn't see what the big deal was. Which is EXACTLY why he was giving this sermon. It's kind of funny thinking on it now. But I know there are others who did not really understand what his point was. It truly was the last 5 minutes of his sermon where I went OH! I'll try to briefly make his point, which may be difficult for me to do. I tried explaining it already on the phone once and I'm not sure I got her to understand it any better.

He was using 1 Corinthians 15. In it, Paul reminds the church that Christ is the base of it all and we should never move away from that base - He died, was buried and rose from the dead. (A good preacher will always bring his sermon back to Christ in some way - it ALL leads to Him.) Paul attacks the false belief that Christ wasn't really dead. He reminds the readers that many people who saw Jesus after His death were still alive. (So during all of this, I'm like "yeah, I get it. Beau, move to the point please." Which is funny/ironic because I'm totally proving why this sermon needs to take place! Beau's point WAS JESUS!) Then Beau kind of camps out on verse 19: "If only for this life we have hope in Christ, we are to be pitied more than all men." He explained how some people who question whether it's all true say that it doesn't matter, they think they'd live the same way anyway because it's been a good life. But Paul is saying that if it's not all true, if there is no Christ, then he's wasted his life. Think about all the horrible things Paul went through. He's saying he's to be pitied if he did all of that for a false belief.

Beau's point was what would we say when we die, if we found out that it was all a lie? Beau is saying that we should, like Paul, be upset that we wasted our life. What have I done for Christ that would be a waste if He wasn't really the Savior? Have I done anything for Him? What is my focus? What have I given up for Christ? I'm not giving Him much time in my day. I don't make a concentrated effort to know Him better by diving into His word every day. I have no problem reading Star Wars expanded universe books for hours. So I'm not really giving up much for Him. That's where I long to improve. I've asked God many times to help me know Him better, to help me get up and spend time with Him. It never magically happens. I wonder why? (Read that with sarcasm - it's a rhetorical question my friends.)

That brings me back to the devotional that Debbie gave me. I'm good about starting devotionals and lousy about finishing them. I try to read through the Bible, but feel like I need more of a purpose than just reading it. So my counselor's suggestion was to pick one and do it. (Such profound advice!) So I picked up the book Debbie gave me. The first verse the book talks about is Proverbs 2:3-5

3 and if you call out for insight
and cry aloud for understanding,

4 and if you look for it as for silver
and search for it as for hidden treasure,

5 then you will understand the fear of the LORD
and find the knowledge of God.

Do you see verse 4? Read it again - if you look for it and search for it. I can pray all day long to know God better, but I have to look and search. We can't be passive here, people. We are to search out God's wisdom as if it were hidden treasure. And it is treasure! The best treasure of all.

That was a huge ah-ha moment for me. I've been passive about a lot of things in my life. I think things will just happen. It doesn't work that way. The things I want - I must search them out. I must work hard for them. I can't wait for it to just come! It's like how I let myself feel that my body will not change any more than it has. PASSIVE! I must search out the healthy lifestyle. I must search out the muscles by working them and pushing them harder. Knowing more about God is not going to just happen. PASSIVE! I must search His truths out and then I will know Him more.

Are you actively searching for Him?

Money. Blech.

So I did the stupid teeth thing on Wednesday. I thought I was going to die. It made my teeth VERY sensitive and I was afraid it would last forever. Thankfully they didn't bother me at all today. Now my 2 front fake teeth are a different color than the rest - which is good, that means it worked - but it'll be a few weeks before I get my new fake teeth. (Gosh - I sound like a hill-billy or something - "yeah ma, I'm a-gonna git them there new teeth next month! Ain't that just better than a pig . . . ?" OK, I'm out of hill-billy stuff. Moving on.) Plus there's the fact that I wonder if you can really tell a difference. I think if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't. Hindsight. Sigh.

Then I had to take my car in to the shop because the engine AND the brake lights were coming on. Yep, I'm a-gonna pay about $900 for that fix. So on top of the stupid expense of teeth bleaching AND the new teeth AND the beach vacation AND family camp, I get to shell out a ton for the car too. Yeah. Greatness!

Like I told my friend Rachel, I guess it's only money. I can handle a little debt.

I have something else to write about, but don't want to put it in a complaining post, so I'll start a new one.

The Light Blue Shirt

I went to Transform today. I proudly wore my light blue Connector shirt. What the heck is a connector, you ask? Well, let me tell you . . . I really have no idea.

Massive projects like this tend to have a certain degree of not being organized. It's just inherent in the whole idea of getting a bunch of strangers together to get some projects done. I'm totally OK with flexibility. But I wish I was better told what to do when everyone was getting there. They gave me two groups but the signs we were holding up - - - OK, this isn't going to make any sense without more details. I was given Yellow 5 and Orange 4. We were supposed to hold up these signs to help the volunteers find us. Then we were supposed to meet each other and what not - you know, connect! I was supposed to help facilitate all this connecting. Well, the signs only had one color on them and they only had the number 1 and number 2. So I chose not to hold a sign. I got the feeling from a couple in my group that I wasn't doing my job. So I held up a sign that said Orange 1. So of course Orange 1 people came to me only to find out I wasn't their leader. It was just dorky.

Then come to find out that the people in my groups were all home groups. So everyone knew everyone - - that's right, except ME! Ugh. This is just not my strength. Really. I wanted to turn in my blue shirt and run from the place screaming. But I chose to carry on. We got to our hallway and all got busy. We had a fun day of painting. I talked to quite a few people, but never did manage to "connect" anyone to anyone else. I seriously felt judged by this couple that I wasn't upholding the standard of the light blue shirt. Then I realized that the day was not about me and how comfortable I felt "upholding the standard of the light blue shirt." It was more about talking to people around me and painting trim for this under-privileged school. The point was to be Christ's hands and feet. I just let my hands and feet (and brain!) get in the way a little bit.

I'm sad to say that I never did talk to God when I was feeling this pressure from some random stranger. I wish I had. Thankfully, He was with me still.

I am going to ask to NOT be a Connector for the next two Transform dates. It's just not my thing. I want to go and be there and help, but not have the pressure of connecting others. I'm more of a behind the scenes girl. And that's totally OK. I guess I used to think it wasn't OK to be behind the scenes. I used to think that behind the scenes wasn't really serving God. It was doing stuff so other people could serve God. That's so totally FALSE! When working behind the scenes, I'm serving God by helping make things easier for other people to do their thing. It's something we should all remember I think.

Random Thoughts

Randomness - it's good to have some occasionally.

I ate chocolate cake at Outback tonight. I wish I hadn't. I'm still working with my nutritionist. I hit a snag back in February. I've lost like close to 30 pounds total, but I wasn't losing very quickly anymore so I kind of gave up and decided that it just wasn't going to happen for me. I was done. I'd lost as much as I'd ever lose. There's no way I'd ever lose anymore and I shouldn't even bother. Totally my defeatist "I'm not good enough" belief kicking in. So I'm doing another 3 months with her. But it's bugging me that I ate chocolate cake. It wasn't even that good! What a waste!

My other random thought has been forgotten now. Hmmmm. I wonder. Oh well. I'll make up something else. :-)

I wore different earrings tonight. I haven't put my studs back in since my post about earrings. I wore some dangle ones and they didn't bother me too badly. They actually made me feel pretty girly, which is quite a change to how I usually feel.

Now it's bugging me that I can't remember what I was going to write about. OH. I just remembered. Ha. Are you laughing at me yet?

OK - I have to get my front teeth replaced. Yep, that's right. I have two fake teeth up front. I fell off my bike when I was a kid and chipped them really badly. I've had all kinds of fake teeth since I was 7 years old. But never any that I could take out. That would have been FUN! So this black line is showing up around one of them. I've never had that before. I bet you've seen someone like that. I've had fake teeth for about 30 years and that's never happened to me. I don't like it much. It's kind of vain to get them fixed - it's really expensive, but my smile is kind of a big deal to me. So - I'm spending the money. The even bigger vain thing is that I'm going to go ahead and get my teeth bleached before getting my two new ones. The veneers don't bleach so I can never do any whitening to my teeth. I feel a little guilty about it, but am at the same time very excited to see how white my teeth will get. That's vain, right? The money could be put to better use than just my teeth, but teeth are important too. AUGH.

So this post has absolutely no point. There's no big lesson learned. There's no insight that can be ascertained from my writing. Ha. But you keep reading. It reminds me of this shirt at Target that I saw tonight. It's this whole paragraph about why you're standing there reading this t-shirt and don't you have anything better to do. But it's too late now, you have to keep reading and aren't you glad you're now at the bottom. It made me giggle. But it calls the reader a loser and a big idiot and I don't feel like wearing that.

OK - I'm done. That's 3 minutes you'll never get back.

AUGH - and my dog has fleas! YUCK! That grosses me out. I did the frontline today and want to keep him outside until tomorrow but he just sits at the door and barks. He feels very unloved when we leave him outside. So Elyssa just begged me to let him in. Maybe the fleas are already poisoned and are dying on him right now. It's so gross! He's such a good dog. Have I put a picture of him on here yet? Well, here's one, just in case.

Summer Goals

Summer - no work. It's the greatest thing ever! But I refuse to waste my entire summer. So how about some goals for the next (almost) three months. These are not in any special order:

1. Get involved in Transform (already did - will be a connector for all three dates.)
2. Find another serving opportunity at church (already did - will do show control along with my parking job already)
3. Do 3 more months with my nutritionist
4. Work out every day - no excuse since I'm not working
5. Get Elyssa exercising more
6. Get involved with serving food to the homeless
7. Volunteer at my church's office when I don't have Elyssa
8. Find a time to spend with God every day - no excuses

I may add more to this. But that's it for now.

Earrings

So, I mentioned an earring story in my last post.

A few weeks ago I was at a training for school. I was walking out to my car, carrying my folder and trying to call my teammate Rachel to let her know I was headed back to school. Somehow I flipped the folder just right and knocked my diamond stud out of my ear.

These earrings were given to me by my ex for my 30th birthday. I love them. They are the only earrings I ever wear. I don't like dangling earrings. I just wear my studs. I only take them out to clean them.

So, I start looking for the earrings on the ground. Of course, I immediately find the back. Ugh. I'm walking around with my head to the ground. 3-4 people pass by me on their way to their cars. Not one offers to help me look. Surely it's obvious that I'm looking for something and not doing some crazy dance. Anyway. . .

I don't panic right away. One of the first things I did was pray, "God, please help me find my earring." I keep trying to tell myself, "it's just an earring. It's just a thing. It's no big deal. Don't cry. Yes, it's a diamond, but it's just a thing - it'll be OK if it's lost forever...."

Then, out of the blue, this insane thought stumbles through my head, "But if the earring is really lost, then the marriage is really over!" Instantly I shoved that thought away as craziness and pretended I didn't just think the weirdest thing ever. I mean, come on! I've been divorced for 4 years now. Of course it's over. Duh. I don't even like the guy like that anymore - how could I even think that?

Finally a nice woman stops to help me and the concerned construction worker (who had been watching me the entire time) offered to help. He asked if I looked under the car. I had not. There it was - right by my tire. I thanked them and got in my car. This is when the tears started. Serious waterworks.

I was told by my counselor to write about this little episode. I've been avoiding it for weeks. But I meet with her again tomorrow and have to have something. She also told me to take the earrings out. I did take them out - for a week. But they are back in right now. I shouldn't be wearing them - I'm too attached to them. I'm going to go take them out again. Back in a second.

OK - I've got them out again. I hate not wearing them. (I'm also avoiding the point of this writing.)

OK - so that thought. Where did it come from? It's not that I miss the ex. It's not even that I'm dying to be in a relationship right now. I'm comfortable where I am. I'm OK being alone. I've made peace with where I am right now. It's the first time that I feel OK with it all. So why the weird random thought? My counselor said something about the loss of the dream. That the earrings still represented my belief in the dream of what was to be and that losing one earring would shatter that dream even more. It's a good point. Obviously I'm still grieving the loss of the marriage - not him - just marriage in general. I still believe I shouldn't be a divorced woman. Can it be that I haven't accepted it yet? I kept the earrings out for at least a week, but missed them. It's weird to miss earrings. I never notice them when they are in, but totally notice when they are not in.

The marriage is over. I belong to only God right now. Maybe someday He has a man planned for my life, but for now it's just me and Him and Elyssa. Maybe the thought was put there so that I'd acknowledge the truth that is my life right now? I am divorced. It's where He has me. It's not ideal, but based on the choices I made, it's where I ended up. God can still use me for great things. I'm His to use as He wants. Pastor Matt always talks about leaving our hands open. Maybe this whole earring fiasco was to see if my hands were open. Are they open or closed around the earrings? They're mostly open, but I'll prove that better if I keep the earrings out of my ears. Mostly open is not really open, is it? And it's not really earrings that I've got my hands gripped around. They just represent something bigger. I've got to open my hands. I'm closing my fists around where I think I should be instead of opening my hands and accepting that I'm where I'm supposed to be. I'm supposed to be divorced? I guess I am. I'm supposed to be a single mom? I am. I'm supposed to be alone and not dating? Right now, I am.

This posts is kind of rambly (is rambly a word?) but I'm leaving it the way it is. That's why I'm supposed to be writing. Even the rambling gets me somewhere. My hands must stay open.

Lord God - help me keep my hands open. I'm Yours and Yours alone. Yours - with open hands.

Summer!

Yea! School's over. Almost three months off! Sigh. Maybe I'll even have time to write again.

We had Star Wars Day again on June 3rd. It was our third annual celebration - very cool. I went as Queen Amidala this year. It's what she wears at the very end of Episode I. A parent of a 4th grader made my costume for me. Amazing! My two team-mates went in my old costumes. They never complained once - I love it that they give that day to me. Very cool.

Oh - and I forgot to tell you - WE GOT INTO FAMILY CAMP! God answers prayers. We're so excited!

What else is going on? My house is a wreck. I'm exhausted. I have an interesting earring story to tell, but I'll do that tomorrow. I'm too tired. I've also got this weird bug that I swear is following me around the house. He/She/It was in the shower with me yesterday. It's some kind of fly, but it looks kind of scary. It's got weird shaped wings. I wanted to call it a dragon fly - but there really is such a thing as a dragon fly. . . and it doesn't look like that. It's hanging out with me right now, just flying around. Hmmmm. Wonder what's up with the scary looking fly?

Seriously, if I'm writing about flies, I think it's time for bed.

Confession

My pastor talked about faith tonight. One thing he said was "Habitual sin is a lack of faith. Laziness is a lack of faith. Refusing to engage with your neighbors is a lack of faith." How does Pastor Matt know? How does he know what's going on in my life all the time?

I was asked to go eat with with some people I don't really know in person on Saturday to celebrate this really nice guy's birthday. I know them only through this very blog. I was filled with fear. Going to meet people I don't know is an agonizing and horrendous idea to me. It's never that feeling when I'm first asked. Well, that's not true. The feeling is there but I pretend that it is not. But upon reflection, I am filled with fear. I can't do it. I don't know what to say. They won't like me.

I did this when I first tried to meet with my home group. It took a few months to force myself to meet these people who have nothing but love for me.

So I didn't go on Saturday and I'm sorry.

Lack of faith. Jesus is the one who ties these strangers to me. I care about them and have never met most of them. They already care about me. I believe the lies of Satan instead of stepping out in faith that Jesus will be there with me too.

There are many times I will not answer the phone when it's someone I know, but not well, and I think they are going to ask me to do something. How crazy is that? I won't know what to say. I won't know what to do. I won't be what they think I am. Lies - all lies from the master liar.

As my counselor would say, I'm being a pawn for Satan. I'm allowing him to lead me around instead of telling him to shove it and following my Savior.

So with tears in my eyes, I offer my apologies. If you ask me again, I will do my best to not let Satan's lies hold me back.

Lucy and Aslan

Elyssa and I saw Prince Caspian last night. It's a good movie, but they change too much from the book and that annoys me. I know they have to do it sometimes or else the movie would be 14 hours long. I'd rather have the 14 hour movie. They just changed the order of some things and added stuff. It's still a good movie. Maybe I just need to see it again.

But what I loved was how Lucy sees Aslan and her face lights up and she runs to him and throws her arms around him. That's how I want to be with Jesus. But I hold myself back - I'm sure it's because of my lack of worthiness feeling. I like that she has no hesitation. She doesn't feel like she's intruding. She feels comfortable and free.

I want that too.

Battlefield

I read this the other day and was brought up short. I don't want to be a pawn of Satan! I do not want to be separated from my glorious King by the little "nothings" in life.

The Gentle Slope to Nothing

Screwtape reveals Nothing:

The Christians describe the Enemy as one 'without whom Nothing is strong'. And Nothing is very strong: strong enough to steal away a man's best years not in sweet sins but in a dreary flickering of the mind over it knows not what and knows not why, in the gratification of curiosities so feeble that the man is only half aware of them, in drumming of fingers and kicking of heels, in whistling tunes that he does not like, or in the long, dim labyrinth of reveries that have not even lust or ambition to give them a relish, but which, once chance association has started them, the creature is too weak and fuddled to shake off.

You will say that these are very small sins; and doubtless, like all young tempters, you are anxious to be able to report spectacular wickedness. But do remember, the only thing that matters is the extent to which you separate the man from the Enemy. It does not matter how small the sins are provided that their cumulative effect is to edge the man away from the Light and out into the Nothing. Murder is no better than cards if cards can do the trick. Indeed the safest road to Hell is the gradual one—the gentle slope, soft underfoot, without sudden turnings, without milestones, without signposts.

—from The Screwtape Letters by C. S. Lewis

I'm working with my counselor right now on taking control of my mind. It is a spiritual battlefield and I have not been fighting it very well.

You've all read in Ephesians about putting on the armor of God. I got a vision and wished I could draw what I see in my head. Maybe I'll try drawing it someday.

Ephesians 6:10-18

10Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. 12For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.

2Corinthians 10:4-5

4The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. 5We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

I've heard this all before, but I forget too easily. I want to remember! I know that part of my problem (a HUGE part) is that I'm not in God's word every day. I have to do that. It's why I forget. I don't have the weapons to fight Satan with. I wonder why I don't have those weapons. For some reason, I can read a Star Wars book in a few days but just don't have time to read my Bible. Hmmmm. Call me crazy, but that's a pretty lame excuse. Where are my priorities?

Pastor Matt always asks, "What stirs your affections for Christ? Do those things! What robs you of your affections for Christ? Stay away from those things!"

I've been reading a lot lately (for the last 2 months!) and not writing because I'm at a point with my counselor where I'm supposed to be looking at and acknowledging that deep pain that we all know is down there. I just don't want to find it. I say I don't really know what it is, but I think I do. I just don't want to expose it even though I know that's the only way to heal it. To me, that specific pain is pointless and selfish and childish and I should just get over it. But - that's called NOT taking my thoughts captive and making them obedient to Christ. I'm not seeing myself as Christ sees me. I'm falling into my core belief that I'm not valuable enough or worthy enough to be loved. That's why I need God's armor.

Final thing: a prayer request. My church goes to Family Camp each year in Arkansas at Shepherd of the Ozarks. I deeply want to go. I am number one on the waiting list. The owner guy said that the probability of us getting to go is VERY high because there are always cancellations. Please pray that it works out that Elyssa and I can go. There are two reasons I want to go so badly. First of all, this is a way for me to make some more connections with people at my church. I still feel like I don't know very many people. The other reason is that I desperately want Elyssa to be surrounded by some Godly men. I want her to see how a Godly man acts and how he treats his family and how he prays and how he serves. I didn't get to see much of that growing up or in my marriage. I have a profound desire for Elyssa to see that. Thanks!

Ahhh. . . it feels good to be writing again! :-)

I'm Back!

I've decided that I'm hiding out from something. I haven't been writing. I've only been reading, and not reading anything that's going to improve me in any way. I'm just doing what I always do - go hide in my room and read. So what's my deal? Hmmmm. I don't know. But I've got to start making time for me again. I need to clear out the cobwebs that are forming up there.

Life is good. School is almost over! Three more full weeks and then I'm off for almost 3 months! I can't wait. But I will be doing more for God's kingdom this summer instead of just sitting on my tush. I've got plans. I'll let you know so you can hold me accountable.

Check back soon.